I'll give you my little two cents on what He and I have come up with.
In the beginning it started with me and a journal I got from Becky Tirabassi. I saw her at a conference about 8 years ago and I heard one thing stand out...
Make and appointment with the King and keep it.
That was it. That was the turning point for me and my walk with Christ. Mind you, I stumbled here and there and cancelled many appointments or didn't show up for our scheduled time together. It was all over the place. There would be days when I would sit with Him for hours when the girls were sleeping. And I would do that for many days in a row.
Then, there would be times where a week or two would go by. Mountains of guilt would come upon me and I would feel like I was always going back to square one with Him. I struggled with feeling like I was in any kind of relationship at all.
I had the journal format from Becky and I loved it. It was exactly what I needed to get started.
Over time, those infrequent days grew less and less. My charting of days paid off. Years later I read a book called Grace Rules. Again, a life changer. I had no idea I lived much of my spiritual life by rules rather than relationship.
My quiet time took another turn. I began living out life with Him rather than calculating the days I'd sat down and prayed.
I eventually stopped using Becky's outline and began to own my own organic relationship with Him.
Many things have been uncovered: sin, character, gifts, talents, strengths, weaknesses, passions, purpose.
All of this because I showed up for my appointment every day. He was always there. And He still it.
Today, I grab my cup of coffee, journal and Bible and find time to sit and chat and read. Now it's rare that I go more that one or two days without actually journaling. There is never a day I go without Him.
Ladies, this is a relationship. He calls to you to make an appointment with Him...and keep it. There is no greater relationship on earth. No other relationship can give you hope, wisdom, joy, and the ability to love more than you do naturally.
Do what it takes to build in a discipline of meeting with Him. He will give you grace and mercy every time You come to Him.
Over time, you too will find that you have become someone who meets with Him every day. And, over time, when you miss those days, THAT's when you feel weird. The missed days become the thing that stand out to you, not the days you met with Him. No, those will become the norm.
He will become the norm.